What is loneliness? Loneliness is simple to explain, it’s when you are in a zone that is not connected to the outside world or to others. You can feel lonely both in the crowd and in solitude. You constantly magnify your thoughts in this world of your own, even double their power, because at this time you just want to (or chose to) live your own feelings – you think too much about yourself! (No one cares about you, no one cares what you are doing, you want to find a friend to hang out with, but everyone is busy with their family or career, because you are a rare single person at your age in this society…)
As for artists, solitude matters, because if you can’t enjoy being alone, you can’t practice or create. No calm, no wisdom .
However, when you are alone, please don’t forget to love yourself, truly cherish yourself, encourage yourself, and talk to yourself with the language of love and motivation. In fact, you know that love is not to chase after, and the more you look for it, the more eager you are, you just let love run farther and farther away…
We always pursue things we don’t have. When you can’t see love in you, “love” can’t see you either.
Don’t think about what you don’t have, don’t criticize why you haven’t fulfilled your dreams, don’t feel that you haven’t done well enough. Taking care of your own thoughts is the first lesson of loving yourself.
Your being is love – why do you search for it? And sharing love is the only way to feel connected, to not feel lonely.
To help others, to move people with art, to act and to express concern for loved ones and friends. We share love with words, with music, with literature, with creation, with mathematics, with teaching, with architecture, with pop culture, with a smile to strangers… It turns out that we so want to connect with others, but this is because both loneliness and love exist at the same time.
So don’t be afraid of loneliness, everyone was born alone and will die alone, what’s more to be feared is to have an unloving heart.
If you can feel love when you are alone, that you are grateful for what’s available around you, you’ll find that even being on your own, that you are able to cook, to eat, to wash, and to walk healthily, to jog, to exercise… how wonderful it is just simply living! How nice it is that when missing my family and friends, I can get through on the phone and talk to them, to share the little things in life! Even though right now I can only brush my teeth with my left hand and slowly finish an article with my left hand… I still have a left hand available, what a godsend!
We often are so absorbed in everyday life, and forget that life is a miracle. To find some little things which make us smile everyday is paradise on earth.
So this time, I went from a lonely heartache to a physical pain. But in the process of healing, I learned to “love myself.”